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Wednesday, December 17 2014

 

We all know that one person in the family that no matter where you go, they always forget to pack something!

In my family I am sure they all would say that person is me... I swear sometimes I would forget my head if it wasn't screwed on (lol).

I went away last weekend and in a rush packed my overnight bags and restocked my stoma supplies.....

I was in a rush and was rather fllustered and thankfully didn't have a bag leak as I just realised I grabbed the entirely wrong stoma bags!

So it got me thinking how many other people with Stomas are finding themselves stressed, flustered and overwhelmed in time for Xmas, and especially those who are heading away for the holiday season.. so I decided I would create a check list printable for you to download, print off and pack your bags.

Just like Santa, we need to make a list and check it twice!

I know for me personally, I tend to only get bag leaks when I am away from home and become stressed. This is my first Xmas with a stoma that I will be going away, and as I won't be just able to zip back home to grab a supply if I do get a bag leak I need to make sure I am prepared first!

If you too need a checklist of what supplies to pack, to help make things more enjoyable and easier this Christmas, then click here or on the image to download your FREE checklist.

If you think I have forgotten or left anything off the list please let me know!

Have a lovely Christmas, and don't forget to enjoy and cherish those loved ones in your life.

 
Posted by: Talya AT 01:48 am   |  Permalink   |  Email
Wednesday, December 03 2014

 

This year would certainly be the first year I won't be running off to the shops on Christmas Eve and trying to find the right gifts for my very long list of people to buy for! Not only is it exhausting running around when you are sick, it can become quite stressful when there are people everywhere (if like me you have social anxiety) and guaranteed you won't be able to find everything last minute.

I decided I would try something different this year and actually started buying presents back in May, and I haven't even finished wrapping presents and my tree already looks full!


This is my not yet full tree!

So I have had a lot of people ask me how am I so organised this year, and I thought I would share my 5 top tips with you!

1. Write a list!
I have so many people to buy for at Christmas that it does become rather expensive (doesn't help being the oldest of 9 siblings aged 7-21). But it is best to grab a pen and paper (or you can type if you prefer) a list of everyone you need to buy for along with the gift ideas for them. I find it easier to do this as a table. 

I have created a FREE download printable for you to print off and fill in if you like! Print off as many sheets as you need!

2. Shop when there are sales on
This one is a given! Take advantage of the mid year sales, usually stocktake sales from around May-July. These often fall in with the EOFY sales too! I discovered this great website (and an app) called OzSale and they have some pretty amazing stuff usually very well discounted! I will admit that 80% of my shopping this year was done through this site and I know I saved a lot! 

Another few sites that I frequent regularly to look for that perfect bargain is Catch of the day, Oo.com.auDeals Direct, Kogan and more! I honestly could go on with sites for hours!

Also there are some other HUGE shopping events each year like Click Frenzy (which only lasts for 48 hours), Black Friday and Cyber Monday (although being USA shopping events a lot of stores in Australia are now having these sales too!).

3. Wrap as you buy!
Hands up who has spent Christmas Eve sitting there rather uncomofrtably for many hours wrapping all of the year's presents rather then spending and enjoying this time with your family?

I know I have done this, and even remember as a kid that dad would have to take us out of the house for most of the afternoon/evening and keep us entertained so that we wouldn't annoy mum who was locked in her room wrapping presents for all the kids.

So I have found this year if I take a little time out of each day whether it is just 5 or 10 minutes and just wrap as much as I can. I pretty much have everything wrapped for now.

I have also found wrapping as I purchase to be rather helpful too at making better use of my time come Christmas Eve!

But there is also the added convenience come December 1 that charities set up a stall in the shopping centres and you donate money and they will wrap your presents for you! Not only will you be saving time yourself but also giving a helping hand to charities, and to me Christmas is about the giving and not so much receiving!

HOT TIP: If a store offers complimentary gift wrap, take them up on the offer! It is one less thing you need to wrap!

4. Take advantage of boxing day sales!
Each boxing day I will grab what ever christmas wrapping paper and labels are left and stock up. I keep these stored in the cupboard all year and then when it came time to start wrapping, I didn't need to buy 1 single role this year! You have seen my tree above, so you can imagine how much paper I had needed!

Boxing day sales is also another great opportunity to find bargains and put them away.

For the last 5 years my husband has asked me for a train set to go around the Christmas tree (if you're thinking he sounds like a kid, he is at heart lol). Well we have been eyeing off this amazing set that is normally around $300... well last year on oo.com.au I scored this exact same train set for $49!!

We got to put it up this year and as you can see from the picture above, it is a big set and I had one happy husband! He wanted to put the tree in one corner and fill the space with presents to resemble mountains and landscape for the train to go around... see told you he was a big kid at heart!

5. Shop online or take advantage of home delivery
One thing about Decemeber is the shops start going crazy! There are people everywhere, and parents that are stressed and kids throwing tantrums. It is just a crazy time to shop!

I decided to avoid all that this year and have had almost everything purchased online and delivered!

Also given my health too I thought it was easier and less stressful to have everything delivered online. As I type this I don't even know if there is anything I need to go to the shops for except for food, but even with that you can get it all home delivered!

Bonus Tip: LAYBY, LAYBY, LAYBY
If you find layby works best for you and if a store offers layby, take them up on their offer! Work out what the required payments would be each week/fortnight and pay it off.

If you haven't looked into castle or chrisco before either, be sure to look into these as they allow you to order hampers and food through the year and it all gets delivered just before Christmas. It is like a huge Christmas food layby! It is pretty handy and I know many families who do this each year (some have the food last months and just store in the cupboard or freezer). The hampers aren't just food they also have electronics and all sorts of things!

These are my quick 5 tips to having a better organised Christmas this year, and hope these help you too!

If you have a tip for a better organised Christmas, feel free to comment below!

 

[Disclaimer: the stores or websites I mention above I have done so out of honestly using these sites and being very happy! I was not offered any payment or form of reimbursement for mentioning these sites. The only affliliate link is the Ozsale where as a member and refer people to sign up I receive a benefit such as $5 towards my next purchase.]

 
Posted by: Talya AT 08:31 pm   |  Permalink   |  Email
Tuesday, December 02 2014

It isn't very often that I have a moment or two spare to just sit and dwell on my thoughts... actually I try to avoid it if possible as it can often cause more harm then good.

It is moments like these that I often think to myself if I could go back in time and meet my younger self (gosh I sound so much older then 23 right now) what messages or pearls of wisdom would I share?

Here are my 5 things I wish I could tell my younger self:

1. YOU are worthy of being loved!
You might think this sounds strange, to tell your younger self that you are deserving of being loved. But if you have grown up not really knowing that you are loved and aren't worthless you will become a young adult that is so insecure, that one day you worry that you just won't be loved anymore. I can tell you I know what it is like not knowing that you are loved, appreciated or worthy of being loved until you happen to be buying a computer and this older, quirky, nerdy, HOT AS and funny computer salesman decides that he wants to spend the next 2 hours trying to sell you a laptop and chatting (I really mean flirting) with you.

You will leave the store with neither a laptop nor his number, and will go home and feel sorry for yourself. You need that laptop as you will become so frustrated with how slow your much loved "Toshi" Toshiba laptop has become since recently finding itself in your bedroom that was inundated with flood waters. You try and perservere for 2 months with your Toshi gradually dying, and just try to work up the courage to return to that shop, hope the hot salesman that rejected you does not remember you (or see you) and that you will leave with a laptop.

But before you return to the store, be sure to cut your hair short and dye it a deep red/purple colour (trust me you will ROCK it) and then return to the store.

What you won't realise is just that once he turns and looks at you he will instantly recognise you and acknowledge you by name. You do let out a loud "oh fuck!" and try to hide your embarassment.

But my dear, don't fret because you will leave the store that day with not only a new Toshiba "Toshi 2.0" laptop but also with his number, which you arrange a date a few nights later.

You will soon realise what it is like to have met someone who is so caring and doting and would honestly take a bullet for you. He will surprise you and your family by sitting with you a month after you start dating as you go through brain surgeries over the next 3 months in hospital.

He will surprise you 3 months after you start dating when he calls and says "Guess what I just bought?.. A $5500 engagement ring!". You will be shocked and instantly feel upset as you thought everything was going great but he must of been in love with someone else as surely that ring isn't yours.

But it was, and surprisingly your overprotective father will let you become engaged at just 18.

You will marry on your 1st wedding anniversary, a ceremony that is low key and intimate with a bigger party/reception with your family and friends. The day will have its many hiccups, which you will just laugh about afterwards.

You will go through many, and I mean MANY obstacles in the first 5 years of your marriage which only will make the bond and love you share deepen. You will be paranoid that it will all become too much for your husband and he will want out, but he tells you to stop being silly and when he says he loves you, you can tell he really means it.

So while it may seem right now that you are alone and that you won't ever find the happiness that your friends have or feel like a freak at school because you are the only one without a boyfriend, you're prince charming is only a couple of hours away waiting for you in a computer store!

2. As soon as you are old enough, get life insurance!
You may roll your eyes at me for trying to have 'that' grownup talk with you, but it really is something that you need to organise before it is too late. Don't wait until you get married to look into it, or when you start trying (and failing horribly) at falling pregnant. You need to do it as soon as you are eligible.

See, what you (or our dad) don't realise is that deep down in our DNA we literally have a ticking time bomb within us.

You will have been told by Dad weeks before your wedding day that he is unwell but getting tests done. But you won't realise until your actually walking down the aisle arms linked that there is something seriously wrong. You pester him the whole time you are walking towards the waiting guests about what is wrong as you notice in 2 weeks since you last saw him that he has dropped a lot of weight. You keep pestering him and he will keep sternly replying "Not today Pumpkin" followed by "I am not doing this today, this is your day and we will talk about it after your wedding". You know deep down something is wrong but you put on a brave face and continue walking what feels like forever to your wedding. Be sure to cherish and take in the moments from that day.

A week after your wedding you get a phone call from dad asking you and Russ to drive down tonight for a "urgent family meeting". You know that in your entire life, not once has there ever been a family meeting. You know something is wrong....

You learn that your dad is terminal with bowel cancer and only told he has a matter of years with agressive chemo left. He waits until your siblings leave the room to process it all, and he informs you that the type he has is extremely rare and it is also inherited. The punch line is that he is confident you too are a carrier.

Now if you haven't organised your life insurance by this point you better do it now, as once the genetic testing and colonoscopies start in the next couple of weeks and confirming you do indeed have FAP, you will be void of any life insurances as it now is a known medical condition and the insurers are smart enough to know that FAP will more then likely lead to cancer. So you are too risky to be insured.

You will be overcome with guilt forthwith as you have nothing but debt to leave your husband if you were to die today. You feel terrible that you won't be able to help support him or look after him when you're gone.

You will have WISHED someone told you to get life insurance.... that's why I am telling you now!

3. Fight more for your health!
You will be bedridden for days each month, which means missing school and work and being in immense pain from your periods. You know that you aren't the same as all your friends as you were very young when you first got your period and it has always been painful, but you were told that it was normal.

You will see doctor after doctor to try and identify why you have such bad pain, why you vommit for days, and why you have diarreah when you get your period. You will be told again and again that it is normal and not to worry.

You tell doctors for years that you are certain you have endometriosis, but only told that "young people don't get endometriosis" and that again "this is normal".

You go through this horrible time for years and you will give up on fighting for answers until you are 21. You will have been referred to this incredible OBGYN who after a thorough consultation with you and your husband, books you in for an invesitgative laparoscopy, hysteroscopy and cystoscopy the following week.

You go in for your surgery and wake many hours later to be told that "you have severe stage IV endometrisosis" and that "it is one of the worst cases I have seen in my career". You will be advised that due to the extensive damage caused involving removing a 15cm mass from your right ovary, 7cm mass from your uterus and hundreds of 1 & 2cm masses from your pelvic area, that it is advised to go through a 6 month course of a medically induced menopause to let your body heal.

You will have wished that you fought harder from 12-21 for answers, as this level of damage could have been avoided and possibly could have still allowed for you to conceive naturally.

Don't listen to the opinions of 1 doctor and demand to see a specialist.

4. Get health insurance
Although it isn't something that you see worthwhile or value in, it is something that you are going to NEED and I mean RELY on!

See, you never thought about health insurance until you needed it (just like life insurance) and as you will have learnt you have a pre-existing condition, you will need to serve a waiting period of 12-18 months before you can claim.

Ever heard older people complain about how horrible colonoscopies are? Well trust me when I say they are! You are going to need A LOT of these and there will be a few that needed to be done urgently and requiring you to pay $5k as you are still serving your waiting period on your health insurance and the public waiting list is too long.

But there are some great perks to health insurance! Like getting your own private room where available, having your surgeon/doctor of choice, getting the TV on free of charge, Having the paper delivered each day to your room and having proceedures done when they need to be done rather then waiting. Don't forget the health insurance pays for your ambulance rides too!

Oh and don't get me started on the private hospital! Imagine a resort, but it is a hospital... seriously! The nurses are so much less stressed then over at the public hospital and are so lovely and patient. THE FOOD is something you would pay top dollar for at a restaurant. My first night I had roast duck... I had never had such a delicacy before! There were even other awesome incidentals too like FREE wifi and Austar too!

But the best part of having private health insurance is the privacy and peace of mind. You know you have your doctors who know your case and you trust with your life, but also when you have your bowel removed when you're 22 you will find it much better being in a private room then a public room with 4 other patients (including men) and not having much support.

So be sure to organise it before it was too late, as it will save you so much money too!

5. Spend more time with Dad & understand just how much he loves you
Although you speak to him everyday and are close, you will be wishing after he died that you had spent more time with him.

Be sure to tell him you are sorry for all the things you were forced to do and wished you didn't.

Make him know that you love him and just how important he is to you.

When he lectures you for stuffing up, don't take it as him thinking you are a disappointment or a failure, take it that he cares enough about you tell you that you stuffed up and listen to his advice. He will pass on many, MANY words of wisdom. Listen to him as he know's what he is talking about and isn't just saying shit for the sake of it.

When he invites you camping or to do family stuff and you decline becuase you have to work, take the time off work because those will be memories you wished you had.

Laugh at his jokes and at his quirky and often embarrasing behaviour. You will realise how much you miss his laughter, and miss him everyday after he passes away. 

Don't try and get his attention by doing things that will make him mad, and worst of all DON'T lie to him. Always be honest with him, he won't always believe it is the truth when it is, but it is so much worse when you keep things from him (like hiding a $900 fine you got and lost your license the day after you got it).

Appreciate just how much he cares about his kids and how much he is willing to help you when you need it. Appreciate that while your dream was to move to Brisbane and go to uni as soon as you graduated (so you didn't apply to the university closer to home) that your dad had other plans. When you ring to tell him you stuffed up big time and Brisbane was a mistake that you didn't get into uni, he will then tell you that he went behind your back and applied to the university closer to home and that you got a full commonwealth supported place and you start in 2 weeks. You will then realise just how much he loves and cares for you and even when he knows you are making a mistake, he still makes sure you have a plan B (even if he doesn't share that with you).

Just if you get angry with him because he won't let you go out with that boy you like (but knows he is trouble), wear makeup, or tries to be over protective - just remember that life is short and he won't always be around, so don't waste time being angry over little stuff just know he cares enough to protect you.

So younger self, while these are the 5 important messages for you I have some short/brief ones too!
* Don't speed- it isn't cool and it is embarrasing when you have no license for 6 mths and have to rely on everyone for a lift!
* Don't get into debt -  yes it is very tempting to have that new car and credit cards but trust me you will regret by 21!
* Learn to save more!
* Stop smoking - not only is it bad and expensive but it is gross. Trust me when I say you'll find other things to release your stress!
* Don't study so much - looking back 20 hours a day spent studying is just crazy! Enjoy life and enjoy having friends, they won't always be there for you, and you will wish you were less alone!
* Don't worry about trying to fit in - once school is over you won't ever see or speak to those bullies again, they are only apart of a brief period in your life!
* Do more of what makes you happy and stop trying to please everyone, you will only be left even more unhappy.

As dad always would say "Always remember Pumpkin,
that no matter what happened today the sun will come up tomorrow".

 
Posted by: Talya AT 09:33 am   |  Permalink   |  Email
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