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Without a doubt you might have heard about the extremely over-the-top wedding in Sydney recently, if you haven't you may have been living under a rock... in that case I will summarise it for you. This super rich couple had a wedding which they closed down entire streets in Sydney causing traffic chaos, and their wedding car fleet involved cars worth a collective of $50 million dollars, as well as hiring helicopters, sea planes... but to have a nice wedding do you NEED to spend millions?
My dad and I at my wedding
I remember when I was planning my wedding years ago I wanted to have the big white wedding, and I was panicking at the cost it was all coming to (something like $10k+) and so was my husband well then fiance... and very quickly the wedding planning was becomming more about pleasing everyone else and catering to their needs rather than creating a day that was perfect for my husband and I.
Because of how much our wedding was going to cost we were planning it for 2 (almost 3) years away. But then something happened (rather fate as you might call it) and in the middle of June my then fiance (who struggles with large numbers of crowds and public performance) was rather overwhelmed with the wedding guest numbers and gave me an ultimatum....
He said either we get married in a month at the courthouse or we don't get married at all!
So I said that I will change our plans and organise a wedding in 4 weeks on a limited budget as long as we have a nice honeymoon and I get to have a nice 21st 2 years later and it be the wedding reception I had of hoped for....
Let's clear one thing up... there was no way I was getting married in the courthouse and I knew I had to plan a nice low-key wedding that was still memorable, that my husband would agree too and decided to make it as nice as I possibly could on a limited budget....
All in all, our wedding cost us just under $2500 and that was including everything!
Here are 10 ways I helped to save money on my wedding in under 4 weeks of planning, and I don't regret it at all!
#1 the dress = $220
My top tip when it comes to shopping for your wedding is to head to the stocktake sales in either June or after Christmas, as you will find some amazing bargains! It was lucky that all the stocktake sales had just started when I started planning my wedding in June something like 5 weeks before I was planning on getting married.
I knew it would be almost impossible to find the perfect traditional wedding dress in my size and budget within 4 weeks, and I knew I also wanted to be different to the norm as well.
So my wedding dress was this beautiful purple formal dress that just happened to be on special for $220 and was a perfect fit. Purple is my favourite colour too, so I knew it is a dress I would be happy in and happy to wear again.
#2 the tux = $250 (including jacket, pants, tie, vest & shirt)
We were lucky that we found the perfect suit on sale (thank you stocktake clearance) and imagine my delight when the entire combo including the tie, vest and shirt came in at just $250! The tux alone was normally $500 odd.
My husband has since worn the suit to weddings, funerals and job interviews.... and if you too saw him in the vest and suit you'd hire him too (bow chicka wow wow) [He would kill me if he knew I said that...truth...]
#3 the wedding bands = $300 for both
When we walked past the Micheal Hill Jewellery store, and Russ decided he wanted to check out wedding bands (and saw they were on special) and decided to buy them to put them away, it was the event that sparked his sudden need to get married and realised that the longer time went on the more he was getting anxious and couldn't do it.
So we found the rings were on stocktake clearance my wedding band was $200 (including a gorgeous row of diamonds) and his simple 'boring' band (as I say) was around $100. Was an absolute steal!
#4 the celebrant and photographer = $1200
How I found our celebrant and photographer was by an absolute fluke. I was at work (at the time as a telco department manager in a now closed electronics department store) when a customer came in needing a new phone contract. I happened to sell him the top of the range iPhone 3s (was THE.BEST.THING.AT.THE.TIME) and we got chatting about his business.
He told me he was a wedding photographer and organised elopement packages or small wedding packages which included the celebrant and photography during the ceremony and 1.5 hours afterwards (and all the photos printed in an album and on a disc too).
I went to the lunch room and found Russ (we happened to be working together at the time... he a computer salesman and I in the next department over selling phones and iPods.... no we didn't start dating when as co-workers.. and yes I got the job there after we were engaged) and told him I might have found us our celebrant and photographer. Russ came downstairs from his lunch break and the guy was still in the store (now needing to buy a new laptop) and we got chatting more about what he could offer us.
He said he had packages starting at $700 but for what we were wanting he could offer a small wedding ceremony and photography package for $1200. This was strictly 25 guests, the set up of the ceremony, the photography (including disc and images printed), the celebrant and filing of paperwork and any other legal fees.
While this meant we could only invite a small number of people to the ceremony (and I know some were a bit peeved about it) but it was all we could afford and had the most important people to us there. However, as we were having the reception/after party back where all my family lived (2 hours south) everyone was invited and most people understood (having had been married themselves knowing too well the cost involved).
#5 writing my own wedding ceremony = Priceless
I wanted our wedding ceremony to be really special, and to also help save on the costs of the celebrant I decided that I would write our entire ceremony (except for the legal blurb the celebrant has to state and a couple of readings), But otherwise the rest I wrote and composed myself (with of course the help from Russ).
#6 2 tier wedding cake = $200
When I went around getting prices of cakes from different bakers most were in excess of $600+ which just wasn't in my budget. I thought I would test the waters a bit and ask how much it was to have a 2 tier cake made (and left off the word wedding) and surprisingly it was much cheaper.
Our wedding cake
#7 bouquet of flowers = $30
Similarly, I found flowers (just like cakes) suddenly had a surcharge applied when you mentioned the word wedding. All I wanted was a nice bunch of white lillies with some nice white ribbon tied around them. These were $30 when the word wedding wasn't mentioned, and when it was it became $150.
I also thought it would be pretty yet simple if my sisters held one pink gerbra (with ribbon tied around) instead of a bouquet. I also gave them bubbles to blow through the ceremony so they wouldn't be bored and run a muck (they were afterall only 7 and 8). And a lot of the photos with the bubbles turned out beautifully!
#8 Flower girl dresses = $50 each
Just like our attire we found the girls flower girl dresses reduced on the stocktake clearance racks for just $50 each! They needed a little adjustment to be made to the bodice, but otherwise were a perfect fit.
#9 Food at the reception (free for us)
We decided to have our reception/after party at a local pub that was a familiar spot for my family. I wanted it to be informal and inclusive of everyone, and as the pub did $5 feeds, I asked everyone instead of buying us a gift to insted pay for their own meals and drinks. My dad and pop ended up putting a tab on the bar as a wedding gift, which everyone (including us) were appreciative of. Although, it didn't last terribly long (even though it was only covering beer, soft drink and wine).
#10 Venue hire (free)
When I was looking into planning my wedding I was searching for places that were FREE or very low cost involved for both the ceremony and the reception. For the ceremony we got married on a headland overlooking the beach (and had whales breaching just off the headland- was magical) and didn't need to pay a fee (although check with your council as some require a permit). And then for the reception, we just hired out the pub as a private function and although I offered, they didn't accept money for the venue hire.
I didn't have it decorated much, just some tablecloths, DIY balloon centrepieces and the cake table decorated. But you can find some amazing DIY wedding decor on pinterest or local selling sites.
More ways to save on your wedding..
* I did my own DIY invitations (which were rather basic) before I had even dreamed of starting my own handmade invitations business (making my wedding invites seemed to have sparked an interest in handmade invitations for me).
* Hair, I visited my hairdresser a week prior to have my hair colouring and trim/tidy up done along with a hair trial. Best to get the colouring done at least a week before and not the day before so you have time to prepare in case you don't like it.
* Makeup, sometimes you can find students at TAFE who are studying and needing experience who can offer their services at an affordable rate. Otherwise, you can always reach out to your friends or family who are familiar with makeup and ask for their help.
* Wear in your shoes before your wedding day, nothing worse than walking around with sore blistery heels and feet.
While it may seem like my wedding was rushed (honestly had 4-5 weeks to plan it) I am so glad that I got married when I did rather than waiting until 2012 like we initially planned on getting married, as this meant my dad was able to walk me down the aisle and be there on my wedding day (not long after our wedding he was diagnosed with terminal Bowel Cancer, and passed away in March 2012).... I now have memories I will forever cherish from that day and conversations had (that still make me laugh). I don't regret have a cheaper low-key wedding, and after 5 years of wedded bliss this year, only proves that you don't need an expensive wedding to make a happy marriage.... also saving costs where possible meant we could go on a nice honeymoon to Hamilton Island for a week.
One last tip... A wise person told me before my wedding that I needed to savour every moment of the day and take it all in, as the day goes rather quickly especially when you're excited, and you don't want to miss out.... they also went on to say that if you make it back to your hotel suite and you are too tired (or drunk) to consumate your marriage, that it is okay and not to feel pressured that you HAVE to do it on that night... there is always the next morning and you have your whole marriage to worry about that (hehe).
Hope some of my tips shared can help you on your wedding planning, if you have a tip for others feel free to share it in the comments below.
Thank you so much for sharing, even though you say you had a budget wedding I still think you looked beautiful and it sounds like it was a great day for all! I voted for you too, hoping you win and best of luck.
Posted by Sally on 24/08/2015 - 03:52 AM
Great tips for not only those that have a tight budget but also for those that wish to spend their money on the honeymoon! (or elsewhere)