Friday, August 05 2016
One of the hardest parts about being terminal and knowing your life will be short lived, is knowing just how much you will be missing out.
There will be plenty of birthdays, milestones, graduations, weddings and babies no doubt...
But it has really been upsetting me lately knowing that I will be missing so much, and that is hard to deal with.
I also know that if I leave Russell up to the task of buying special gifts for after I am gone, I know not only can he not choose a good present but he is never organised enough to make sure a present is arrived in time.
Heck, I start Xmas shopping around April/May each year (yes I already have presents organised already).
But part of me feels that I should be organised now and start buying gifts and getting cards together for their birthdays, future babies and weddings... but will that be creepy? Like will they be creeped out that I am giving gifts beyond my grave?
Hardest thing is I can't find like a 'etiquette to dying' handbook to tell me what I am meant to do and organise before I die... so I am kinda just winging it. (trust me I have looked... wait maybe that is my e-course or e-book idea?)
I wish everyday that I wasn't dying or that I can continue to grow old with my husband... I wish I wasn't given this shortened life sentence and that I could find a fairy godmother to grant me 3 wishes with one being 'to be cured'... but that only happens in fairytales and I am no Cinderella.
I really want to be here for Russell's 40th in 4 years, but I threw him a pretty cool 35th party (but I didn't tell him it was because I might not get to throw him a 40th). The party was under the disguise of 'half way to retirement' party.... but he had fun and his friends all had fun too. It was a themed party and everyone was to dress up as something they wanted to be when they grew up.
Was a lot of fun, and he asks me if I will throw him another party and I just reply "We'll see" and put on a smile and hold back the tears. I am considering a housewarming party, but we'll see.
Like I know I am not ready to fall off the perch just yet, and I hope I at least have another year or two but I am the sort of person that needs to be prepared and needs to be organised.
But tell me, if you got a gift or a card from a loved one beyond their grave, would you be creeped out?
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I am mostly housebound so being able to go out for a nice treat would really help make my day that little bit brighter. Would also help me to feel appreciated too.
Hey Talya, you know what? I think it`s just so generous of you to be thinking of everyone else when you have so much to deal with every minute of the day. If I received a card from someone after they had died, I`d be just so touched that, in the midst of their illness, they found time and energy to think of me. It would be a precious gift, so NO, absolutely NOT, would I be creeped out!!
Posted by Jennifer Simpson on 06/08/2016 - 03:50 PM
I think it's a wonderful idea I know leaving cards & letters for significant milestones is done and I have heard of husbands organising flowers to be sent to their wives for anniversaries and birthdays. I don't think it's at all creepy just rather touching ❤️
Posted by Jo Plews on 06/08/2016 - 04:01 PM