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Friday, September 02 2016

I am often asked and often daily, how do I remain so happy or positive despite everything going on in my life.

I am a big believer in self-care practices, and one of the tools incorporated into my day-to-day routine is doing at least 1 thing for me or something that I know will make me happy.

I also designed myself a 2016 calendar, with each month a different quote or positive message to myself. I look at this daily and it is pinned above my computer as a reminder of not only what needs to be done that month but a positive message to live by too.

A big part of my bucket list (also calling it my happy list) is mostly things that I want to achieve because I know that will make me happy.

But I also know that no matter how bad today gets, the sun will come up tomorrow and it is a fresh new day.... there are 365 days in the year and that is 365 opportunities to make yourself happy!

So I thought I would share at least 5 things I can do to make my day that little bit brighter.

#1. Learning to say no and knowing my limitations or delegating:
I have found that if I am feeling a little overwhlemed during the day or over a week I will set myself the task of trying to say no, especially to things that I know I either don't have the energy to deal with or just I know it is something I really don't want to do. If it is something I know can be done an easier way or know someone who could probably do it better than I could I delegate that task/chore.

#2. Crafting or creating:
I know a lot of people think that they're not creative or don't have a creative bone in their body, but I don't think this is true. I think everyone has the ability to be creative one way or another. It could be something like expressing yourself with your outfit or hair or makeup. For me, I love craft especially papercraft and can completely zone out. I also like designing things on the computer too.

#3. Writing or journalling:
I write a lot everyday... I write lists, I write blog posts (even though I have no intention of ever publishing some) or I write goofy love notes to Russ. One thing my dad did before he died (that I didn't get until afterwards) was a letter he wrote to me and it is something that I cherish. I am working through a list of people I am writing letters to, which are to be given out after I die. This also comes into the next step too.

#4. Grattitude:
I am so grateful to a lot of things and especially to a lot of people. If someone has done something for me, even if it is just a small token, I like to make sure they know that I am grateful to them. I also have a grattitude jar where I write down something that has happened that day or something someone said or did and then at the end of the year I read back through and find reasons that made me grateful. 

#5. Do something for someone else:
Whether it be dropping around a meal if they're having a hard time, or taking them out to coffee, even as little as watering their plants while they are away is a kind gesture to do for someone else. I like to try and find at least one person I can help or do something for of a day, and it makes me feel better about myself as I did something for someone else. Even smiling at someone (a stranger), or saying "hi" or giving a compliment can help boost their day and make them smile!

Bonus - Do something for me:
This might sound strange given my whole list is about doing things to make me happy, which in itself is doing something for me, but I try and do one specific thing that can be selfish or indulging... but it is something just for me. Like today, I was having a stressful week and was in a grumpy mood so I went and treated myself to lunch overlooking the ocean, was just me on my own, and it was nice just doing something outside of the house and something that I needed (you need to eat). Other things could be getting your hair done, having a facial, eating a nice caramel tart or buying something that I want just because. I also like to chat to friends or browse sale sites for a bargain... Russ tries to say I am most happiest when spending money (he is a comedian or so he thinks). You might even enjoy going for walks and find walking (or running)  makes you happier.

P.S Tell me, what do you try and do that makes your day happier or brighter?

 

 I ask (if you feel inclined to) that if my blog or my writing has helped you or made  a difference in your life, please consider treating me to lunch or a mango  smoothie by clicking through to my paypal.me account

 I am mostly housebound  so being able to go out for a nice treat would really help  make my day that little  bit brighter. Would also help me to feel appreciated too.

 

Posted by: Talya AT 09:57 pm   |  Permalink   |  1 Comment  |  Email
Comments:
Hi Talya, FANTASTIC, love it. I had emergency surgury 12 mths ago and lost all lower bowel and have only 230cm of top left. Permanent Illeostomy gor me and I am alive. Positivity is so much the key. I found you on an o/s Illeostomy site. Am jumping for joy to find someone in Australia to communicate with. It is so uplifting and love to read about your story. Im not a stalker just excited to communicate with someone in NSW. Hope im not too over the top for you. Kind regards Annmaree 0407475275 Ps. Do you sell your calender? If so I would love to purchase one now and for every year onwards.
Posted by Annmaree Sommerville on 26/07/2017 - 08:03 PM

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