Russ, as of 4pm this afternoon, is off work for 10 days.
Cue the party blowers!
I noticed he was burning out, it is hard working full time and being a primary carer too, it can understandably be a bit overwhelming and exhausting at times.
It can feel like you're burning the candle at both ends too.
In 8 years of being together I have gotten good at recognising what Russ needs even before he says so himself.
So I realised around Christmas he was tired, he was more snappy and irritable than usual and he was just grumpy. I told him that he should find out the earliest he can take holidays and take them, as I was worried about him. Our GP agreed it was good idea for him too.
So he finished this afternoon and heads back Australia day or just before.
I don't want to overwhelm Russ with a jam packed daily itinerary, he doesn't do well with plans as the fallout of when they don't happen can be hard, so I am choosing to do things to spend time together but shouldn't be too overwhelming either. We don't have a holiday planned or anything but there are 5 things we want to try and do:
#1. Go for a couple of nice walks together:
My GP has told me I need to go outside even if it is just sitting outside for 10 minutes or going for a stroll around the street. But I really would like to go for a stroll around the beach or through the botanical gardens, providing it isn't too hot.
#2. Go to Bunnings:
We love Bunnings, is there anyone who doesn't? But we love just strolling through meandering up and down each asile and I could spend all day nestled in their plant section. Russ isn't very handy and seeing him try and use a drill set is hilarious, but we do love Bunnings. We are needing to price some house things, we have found since being first home-owners that the list of house to do stuff is never ending. I have appointments in Coffs at the Hospital and cancer centre on Tuesday arvo, given bunnings is close by we will do hospital stuff then treat ourselves to Bunnings, we can't wait!
#3. Do some house stuff:
I know this isn't news, but we still are yet to unpack some 15 months or so later. Which means our car still isn't in the garage and I am a little annoyed as he assured me by now it would and with all of these crazy storms of late I am surprised our car managed to avoid the hail, but it worries me and would be easier if it was put away... so I am hoping we can organise the shed, I will list some stuff online (fingers crossed we can make our mortgage this month since it is an extra $500 we need to find). I have some TV's I want hung on the walls, our wardrobe needs help and theres odds and ends that need sorting out. I have been asking for the back patio to be tidied up for half a year and if there is one day spent going gun-ho at sorting the house, it means more days resting.
After all, happy wife happy life they say.
I have also just started doing the Barefoot Investor, so hoping to work on whipping ourselves into financial shape this year, so probably try and sell a bunch of stuff to find the $2k needed for one of the steps. I have A LOT of work to do to find this amount so I can begin.
#4. Do our belated Xmas:
I was so unwell on Xmas day that I didn't get to see a lot of family, I haven't been too well since either and haven't managed to get down. We are hoping over the next 12 days to find a day that suits everyone.
#5. Go Swimming:
One day over the next almost 2 weeks, I want to really go swimming finally. Just a matter of finding somewhere accessible and where there aren't many people around, given my first time swimming in years I don't want to be anxious that people are watching me, especially as it is the first time swimming since my new "leaks a lot" stoma too. So I don't want to be feeling added pressure. I have a gorgeous swimsuit from Yours Clothing (gifted) and a long sleeve SPF50+ rash shirt from SunSoaked (also gifted).
So it is safe to say I am feeling pretty excited for the next couple of weeks, I like days Russ has off and we can hang out - even if it is just playing board games in bed. Days I am in bed it is a comfort to know he is close by. Also means if there is an hour or two I can manage getting out of the house we can do stuff, those are my best parts of the week.
Here is to quality Talya and Russ time - Can you tell I am excited?