Tuesday, August 07 2018
Tomorrow is Dying to know Day, which is an initiative to encourage people to openly talk about their end of life wishes but to also become better educated and informed about the decisions to be made.
There are 556 events happening all around the country (Aus), to see if there is an event near you click here.
I recently discovered that there are death doulas/death midwives, who help to assist people with their end of life decisions. I am hoping to collaborate on some posts soon with one and share more information about the services but also about being better informed, such as planning your funeral could save you thousands if done in advance, and I am interested in learning about that! So stay tuned for that collab.
75% of the population have not had end of life discussions or discussed their needs, even for something as important as organ and tissue donation. If you have chosen it on your drivers license you still need to register via the donate life site, it takes less than a minute to sign up and you could save many lives.
I know that many find the topic of talking about death confronting or it is rather taboo, but I know for me I want my wishes heard and understood so that when the time comes I hope others know in advance what I want, such as to be at my own home not hospital, and that I hope by having my funeral planned it can save my family the stress of it as they grieve. It also gives me peace of mind that I am getting what I wanted, which I know I won't be there but I still want to know my needs are voiced.
Take this time today, even if you aren't sick and facing your mortality early, to have a conversation with your loved ones, to consider checking your will is up to date and your power of attorney are valid, also checking that your advanced care directive is fulfilled. Tell your family if you want to be an organ/tissue donor and tell them what sort of life celebration you want to be had in your honour.
Also take this time today to become more aware of your options and choices available.
If you're wanting to know a place to start in terms of death literacy and being death aware, this is a link to a list of resources available via dying to know day called "the big list".
For an interview with a death doula on why they believe everyone should have a death plan, you can read more here.
But do spend tomorrow writing a list of your own ideas or needs, and take the time to talk with your loved ones too.
There are plenty of events happening around the country, quite a few in regional NSW too, closest is Port Macquarie for me, but I don't imagine I could get there tomorrow. But palliative care are coming for their usual visit so I plan on making sure my documents are up to date.
However you spend your Dying to Know day, I hope it is a good day!